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Having "the talk" with your roommate
Published: Friday, September 6, 2013
Updated: Friday, September 6, 2013 11:09
We’re all adults here, so we should all be able to have the respect to engage our roommates in “The Talk.”
Instead of sneaking that cute classmate into the dorm, there’s a certain code of conduct to abide by in order for that two-some to avoid becoming an awkward threesome.
There are roommates who have a mutual understanding on the subject and who won’t throw a huff about having guests over, but there are others who have a completely different opinion on the matter.
Just assuming your roomie will be okay with your sleepover may send them over the edge and cause a “No Boys Allowed” living situation to occur.
An easy way to bring it up is to make the focus be them. Do you have a significant other? Do you mind if my guy/girl spends the night sometime? Do you know what the sock on the door means?
A bad alternative is to advise your roommate that you and your boyfriend/girlfriend will be in the room all day everyday and she can just grab a chair and a bucket of popcorn. It would be rude for them to not want to watch all the fun, right?
Make sure that you know what times they’re okay with your guest being over and that you have a communication method to inform them when the boyfriend/girlfriend are visiting.
Talk about how often they are okay with sleepovers, when they will be out of the room so they won’t feel uncomfortable and, if you share space, where they can leave their stuff (remember, they are not moving in).
This is a far better option than your roommate coming home to feminine products all over his bathroom counter and a pink robe draped over his beanbag chair. I’m sure his joy will cause him to speak very loudly and lock himself in his room to revel in the occurrence.
For those who share one room, do not canoodle while your roommate is in the room. There is no way of hiding it. Beds creak, covers fall off and with the amount of room on these beds, someone is bound to fall off at least twice.
To drown out naughty noises, turn up your TV or blast some heavy George Michaels jams, that gets many people in the mood, too!
Always avoid their space, like their desk, bed, counter space, utensils, etc. Have some class and think to yourself: would you like them to do that to you?
If it turns out that they aren’t okay with it, you have to respect them. At the end of day, they are paying for the dorm, not your boo thang.