The Internet and how it is changing the dating game
Published: Thursday, February 14, 2013
Updated: Thursday, February 14, 2013 17:02
It’s amazing how comfortable people are with those they hardly know, said Holly Hall, ASU assistant professor of journalism.
Hall describes how at ease some are when getting to know people online. As a social media professor, she knows all too well how people are different behind a computer than in person.
Statistics show that people, who are seeking a significant other, now more than ever, are turning to the Internet to find that special someone.
Blinddating.com says 40 million Americans have tried online dating on at least one occasion.
“Several of my friends have met someone online and some made a real connection but I would like to meet someone I may potentially date in person,” said Jerrica Faggett, an ASU senior chemistry major.
This method of dating can cause people to confuse lust and sex for love more easily than traditional dating.
A report in the Gendered Society Reader said 67 percent of students in a long-term relationship had started out with at least one hookup and 40 percent of Americans have experienced at least one hook up..
Dating experts say there is nothing wrong with meeting people online but it’s not where you date.
They also say you can make a connection on a social media or dating site you’re visiting and then you should quickly take your correspondence to a phone call, not a text, to feel out your interest further. If all seems well, it’s time to meet face-to-face, or on Skype.
Daters are not just searching the web for a potential lover. Speed dating, rapid dating and match making are popular choices as well. A lot of people are catfishing, too.
Catfishing opens people up to the darker of side of dating. Catfish are people who take on a new identity in the quest of companionship, often misleading daters. A lot of times people are deceived and left heartbroken when the truth surfaces about lovers who turn out to be a fake.
The Better Business Bureau says these scams are known as “Sweetheart Scams,” and in 2011 such online dating hoaxes were among the top scams of the year.
Everywhere you turned there were stories on college football player Manti Te’o and the fallout behind a catfishing experience gone wrong.
Although more untraditional ways of dating continue to surface, many people still prefer the old fashion way of meeting someone.
Hopeless romantics still exist. The proof is all over Facebook, Twitter and other social media sites. Teenagers, college students and adults post comments ranging from how much they are in love, to love lost, even expressing their longing to meet that special someone.
Posts on the numerous popular social media sites prove a lot of women long to be whisked off their feet and some men still look for the one who will take his breath away.
Askmen.com says men want to pursue the sweet lady who catches their eye but are confused about what women want. A poll on the site points out that men feel women can’t have both. Boldly depicting that women want to be treated like princesses but also affirm their independence, and are just as happy without a significant other. Feminism is credited for men’s volatile display of chivalry.
Nevertheless, classic methods of meeting someone haven’t died out. Love seekers hangout in places considered to be great spots for singles, use dating websites and even hire matchmakers. Magazines, social media and daytime talk shows are inundated with advice on how and where to meet someone.
Countless reports contain data suggesting that, much like the 1950s, people still desire formal and elaborate dating. Guys may not ask a girl’s father for permission to take her on a date as much as they did in the olden days. But some still look forward to all the pomp and circumstance that surround dating, and women will never get tired of getting all dolled up for a date.
The need for love causes some people to go through great lengths to obtain it. Analyst say love happens when people least expect it and usually with an unlikely candidate. It’s not often that people experience love at first sight.
Love can have an individual on a natural high but the fallout can be just as emotional. Love songs profess that lovers want to die, go blind and stop breathing when that special someone is no longer in their life. Philosophers say love conquers, cures and controls and researchers argue that love is the strongest passion of all.
Although dating is ever changing, it hasn’t stopped those chasing love. The way people seek and find significant others continues to evolve but as many studies on love show, one constant is at the core of people they want love.