Learning to respect opinions is key to growing up
Published: Monday, October 7, 2013
Updated: Thursday, October 10, 2013 10:10
Under the arch last week some students were brought to tears, a few from frustration and others by humor.
Many students lashed back toward the Pentecostal man as he preached to passing students.
He wore a large sign stating that as a “warning to all,” if you were a sinner or you lived a life that did not go along with the law of the Lord, hell was waiting for you.
The sign listed many types of sinners, from lesbians to girly men, pot smokers to party animals, and even Mormons and those of Jewish descent.
Students felt personally attacked by this man, some respectfully spoke, some yelled curse words and slandered his name, and some just sat and listened to the crowd.
He stated that his reason for coming to our campus was to help us become sinless.
Timelines of Twitter, Instagram, and Facebook buzzed with questions about what was going on. Many students wanted to know why this man was let on our campus.
What many students don’t see is that this is one huge step in growing up. When we were younger and in high school we could report people to the principal’s office, or tell our parents if something made us uncomfortable, but in the real world you have to take what happens and deal with it.
You have to come to the realization that everyone has their own opinions and that the only way we can handle them is to listen, understand where that person is coming from, accept that it is his or her belief and then open them up to your belief without forcing it down their throat.
As an adult you have to learn to respect others and their opinions even if they aren’t respecting your own.
For example, many students were utterly offended by his words about women, and the place he believed them to serve.
As a woman, that is very offensive. But I had to think and realize I live in a world where I get to choose, just like his wife and the women of his religion choose to obey him.
His wife simply told me once you are married in their religion, you give the leadership of yourself over from your father to your husband, and that is the way they believe it to be.
This whole show should be a wakeup call that most of us are going to be out of our safe area we call home.
We have to learn to become adults and fight for our opinion, but also respect other peoples’ opinions= and let them live the way they want.
We take offense of things we don’t understand and raise our voices and curse, but the point is we need to learn when to walk away and when to stay.
We have the right to have our opinion and the ability to change how we approach the opinions of others.
It’s a learning experience. It tests us as new adults and once we realize we should respect others the way we would like to be respected, we won’t be as offended by what his opinion is, because ours doesn’t have to change.
*** This article was originally printed as written by Caitlyn Sweet, the correct author is Ashley Doan